Think about what qualities you admire in yourself.  Ask yourself what do I need to do more of? Emotions come and go. People don’t choose their emotions and therefore you should not be judged on the basis of how you feel momentarily. Building yourself up when all you see is down can be a challenge but not impossible.  Ask yourself what qualities do I admire in others? This doesn’t mean anyone else is better than you, just different. See if the change fits and adopt it.

Roar

 1 used to bite my tongue and hold my breath...

Scared to rock the boat and make a mess...

So I sat quietly, agreed politely...

I guess that I forgot I had a choice...

I let you push me past the breaking point...

I stood for nohting , so I fell for everything...

You held me down, but I got up...

Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, you hear that sound
Like thunder gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Get ready cause I’ve had enough
I see it all, I see it now I got the eye of the tiger,

a fighter, dancing through the fire

Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar...
Now I’m floating like a butterfly
Stinging like a bee I earned my stripes
I went from zero, to my own hero
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, you hear that sound
Like thunder gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Get ready ’cause I’ve had enough
I see it all, I see it now
Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar...
-- Katy Perry

""One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain." - Bob Marley, Musician

The Psychology of Self-Esteem

Roar is a story of a young girl who lacks self-esteem. Her emotions lead her to be attracted to people whose need for self-importance overshadows her needs

in the relationship. This thinking makes you give up on yourself so you feel destined to live through another person, which hurts. Your emotions add to your personal image -- but is it the real you?

Changing your negative self-talk to positive can help you create boundaries in relationships that project that you are a person of value and should be treated as such. All these negative messages can become a part of your being without you realizing it. You an create positive change when you see that many of the hurtful situations that result in emotions you internalize as fact are really misinterpretations and were meant to hurt you.

Build self esteem by forgiving yourself for your feelings because they're temporary and don't define you. Learn to stand up for yourself and you'll never feel down again.  Look for supportive nonjudgmental friends and you’ll nurture the best in each other. Change and people notice. Change and people will be attracted to the real you.

 Parents who won't listen because they’re too self-absorbed make you feel unsafe.  It’s not your fault, it just seems that way at the time. So you consciously choose relationships with people who don't listen either, not realizing you found more of the same you’re getting at home.  

Self-blame can also come from trauma such as physical, sexual and emotional abuse. When you are forced into situations against your will it creates distrust of people and the world. Most everyone has something about themselves they would like to change.  






​When low self-esteme prevails, negative self-talk screams creating faulty thinking such as “I’m not OK because of my weight. I 'm not in a relationship because I’m unlovable. I'm not popular because I’m not good-looking enough.” These all-powerful messages can shape what you think about yourself and destructive behavior patterns emerge including poor relationship choice

These moments occur either with parents, siblings or friends. They dictate how your mind sees you in your own world and in turn creates a vision of how you think others see you. If you can listen to your emotions, you can see if you are really where you belong.

The theme of the song is "I’m not going take this anymore" and "I’m going do something about it." The revelation of personal empowerment comes through an understanding of the backstory of  your own self-defeating image. Where do these emotions come from?  

Some come from misinterpretations. Distant parents you look up to who never acknowledge your achievements can leave you feeling invisible. You may think they're right because they're your parents. But is that their issue or yours? 

When parents are perpetually in conflict with each other and you are caught in the middle you may blame yourself and withdraw, which contributes to their lack of interest in you and verifies your misinterpretation of worthlessness. The problem with giving in to these emotions is that it can taint your interpersonal relationships into adulthood.